Jan 2017

Mummy blog – because what ever I go through so do they


well as title says really? and I know its not just the kids it G as well.

When I’m in hospital or unwell it effects the whole house which is one of the many reason I hate being in hospital, I can see the effect it is having and yet am powerless to help. There is the emotional side the practical side and the financial side (drinks snacks and dreaded parking/petrol etc.)

D is now 5 but is very much a mummy’s girl at heart although she wraps daddy round her little finger!  and gets away with murder when he’s on duty lol and K is 11, which is a funny age as he’s entering puberty so has all these emotions and has no idea how to handle them – (although now I’ve typed that it sounds like something someone would use to describe all men lol).

We have found that the kids find quick visits easier to deal with, so we manufacture scenarios where they will pop and see mum on the way to, or from X.  This means they don’t get bored and or upset and its nice and upbeat and they can perhaps come twice in a day even if for only 20 minutes at a time set up . Also with D being so active she simply can’t stay still enough and for some reason she is ALWAYS hot in hospitals (perhaps a bit stressed) and a 5 when your hot you take clothes off, which obviously isn’t ideal lol ! !!

K on the other hand goes really quite and doesn’t really know how to handle it as he wants to help but knows he’s out of his depth. Oh that reminds me we were referred to a young carers group and we had a meeting with someone before Christmas and he’s been accepted and this will give him a great place to meet like minded kids who understand what its like to have a mum with additional needs or disability’s or illness’s, they have a youth club and activities. also we have signed him up for scouts – and as long as we can sort out some transport home for him that should be great too (its at the same time as my college course so I will have the car)

That reminds me I taught the kids to sign a song for Christmas and they performed it for Christmas assembly at school and here is a little video if Daisy practicing before the event and here’s a picture of us after we did it with our Head Teachers award stickers

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I am so proud of my children – Christ they aren’t perfect but neither am I and who wans robots – they are kind and caring and are fantastic to be around and regardless of my tubes scars and all that goes with it they love me and support me in their own way.

one last thing I wanted to share was this really cool mummy cheat – you know what its like naming and labelling kids school uniform its a bloody nightmare right? WRONG !!!! I have found a company who not only deliver super super quick but they also have they best products

these name tags are amazing you can attach them to everything from shoes to swim towels and school bags even inside uniform and they wash and wash and wash, then there’s the name stickers and again theses wash and wash and wash – D actually outgrew something before the sticker faded !! They also have a ink stamp so you can just stamp your child’s name on their uniform – no sewing or ironing on labels (they never stayed on anyways. I think these are so so good and as a mum who has to think about what energy I have and how to use it on bad days using a stamp rather than having to fiddle and sew etc. is perfect – its literally the perfect product (no I haven’t been paid to say this !) oh and I even use the stamp on husbands uniform as its just a surname !

Here is a link to the website and Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/nametags4u/ and https://www.nametags4u.co.uk/

Anyways its nearly midnight so I will schedule thus to post in the morning and I will update about my MaxFax appointment tomorrow xx

lots of love and thank you to those who follow

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BBQ


This have most definitely been eventful lately, where to start.

Choir, well week 2 I couldn’t go as I barely had a voice, I’m too sure why but at least once a week my voice goes croaky and sometimes just disappears.  Week 3 i turn up and almost instantly i regret it. Other than a speaking voice range i had nothing, there was just no noise. My heart sank and i just knew this wasn’t going to work, well not at the moment.  everyone was practicing so I grabbed my bag and ‘went to the loo’, i wasn’t planning on going back in.  My wonderful neighbour obviously saw my face and followed me, she asked if i was back in and I said no, I don’t think she was overly surprised, I was mortified and was just very aware that I didn’t want to make a fuss, so I sloped off in to the night.  I think if my voice gets stronger and more reliable I will try again. The ladies really are lovely and so welcoming.

What was next…… Our big BBQ !! We held a BBQ to raise money for Macmillan and Cancer Research UK. We invited people through G’s work and Facebook.  We also put an invite through every single house on the street… and the 2 big big bosses houses but non of the misery guts turned up. That is apart from a few who let me know they couldn’t come.

Thankfully those who did were great, C and L were particularly brilliant.

We held a raffle on the day and had some really amazing prizes, we had a wooden boxed golf putting set, champagne,  lots of wine (even though I dufus opened one of the bottles of wine and had a glass, it wasn’t even cold!! And there was plenty in the fridge!!) We had a sock monkey made by C we had 2 lots of Phoenix trading goodies, oh and vouchers for hair cuts at Hair Force, we had back massages from local beauticians,  well all sorts. As well as a super day, we raised £217. 90 and 2 people are sending us cheques but I don’t know how much for. So I’m just waiting on those amounts. Overall a massive success,  I met some new people and became friends with some of our neighbours, who we hadn’t met before. Overall super positive.

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