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Sensing tone in the written word


This is something that has intrigued me for a long while. I find it interesting that you can, for example reply “ok” in a text it can be taken so may ways.

OK,  ie fine whatever I hate you right now!!!!
OK,  ie no issues, I’m happy with that thanks.
OK, ie  lethargic don’t care do what you like.
OK,  ie yippee yayyyyyyyyyyy I’m a happy bunny!!
OK,  ie yep Roger that !

That’s just what I thought
of off the top of my head, sarcasm is a totally different beast,  as without actually stating that your being sarcastic it’s near impossible.

I see this all the time on Facebook, I can’t count the amount of arguments I have seen caused by people meaning one thing and it being read differently, often by different people causing what i could only describe as sub – arguments.

I’m writing this today as I fell victim to this by my own written word, now I’m no real writer, and my punctuation sucks so it’s no surprise it’s happened and it’s not the first time and in this won’t be the last.

So here it is

Me and hubby don’t have much family support (before anyone gets their backs up I’m referring to visits, yes I know ppl work etc )

Looking at it to me it looks like I was immediately defending what i had said, and perhaps in the brackets correcting as well as clarifying. So overall a D- would be the appropriate mark.

Perhaps I could have said due to circumstances  beyond our control we don’t live near to family so rarely see them? Perhaps.

But in essence isn’t the same??

I don’t know, I’m fully aware the lack of visits/support from/seeing family is due to people working, I’ve shared my sisters blog before she’s a steward on yachts all over the  world. Our parents all work and live 3 plus hours away, and 1 works full-time, one part-time and ones retired.

What I’m saying is in my other post,  the quote above I simply meant “I get it” but I have lots of people read by blog who don’t know our families situation.

But the syntax didn’t read that way, the  inflection was misunderstood.

I’m sure this will happen again but I will be more aware from now on.

P.S the antibiotics seem to be working well

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1 thought on “Sensing tone in the written word”

  1. It’s so easy to misunderstand with writing as you don’t see person as it is being written. About 80 per cent of our communication is done by gesture, tone and facial expression which is why we all get in a knot with texts and emails and the likes. When you cant see someone’s expression when they wrote it, you can’t tell the intent and the feeling – or meaning – behind it. The thing is, we are all in the same boat, and we forget that too. We are so quick to be offended that we forget the we too, ‘offend’ and I think we say that something offends us when really, it hit a nerve, and we just don’t like it!!
    One thing is for certain, you said that this blog is for you, to help you through your fight with your illness, living your struggle, your way, as you see it. I remember that this came up before, and those who know you are the ones who matter, and we know YOU. Those who know you understand that you would not be taking a cheap shot at someone, we know that you understand your family constraints, and shouldn’t expect you to second guess every blog you write when you are finding your way through this the best way you know how.

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